Hi Caroline, I'll share a personal thought experiment which may help clarify the concept.

Sometime back, I was doing a 'Life Review' to understand the choices I made and how they impacted my life. I have made many wrong choices that have lead me down paths that were not the best for me. Some of them lead to experiences that needed to be healed.

So, I wrote the situation, my mindset, and the choice I made. Then I explored what other choices I could have made and how they would have had a different impact on the life. My goal was to learn from the mistakes, and heal them by creating the energy of a better choice.

Hope that helps!